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How to Manage Up: The Art Of Working Effectively With An Ineffective Bosses

Learn how to manage up: decode your boss’s priorities, communicate smarter, and accelerate your career with actionable tips and HR-backed insights.

Courtney Ritchie
July 3, 2025

Learn how to manage up, boost engagement, and model upward management for your organization with actionable tips, real-world examples, and HR insights.

Managing upwards allows employees to build mutually beneficial relationships with their managers. This has a positive impact on their work experience, job satisfaction, and career goals.

This guide delivers clear tactics, vivid workplace examples, and HR insights to help you boost team morale and advance your professional path by working effectively with the boss you already have.

What Is Managing Up?

Managing up (sometimes referred to as managing upwards) is the deliberate practice of optimizing the relationship between an employee and their manager, enabling both to deliver exceptional results. 

According to the Harvard Business Review, managing up is the “process of consciously working with your superior to obtain the best possible results for you, your boss, and the company.

When done well, managing up produces:

  • Clearer priorities: fewer “fire-drill” pivots
  • Faster decisions: less waiting for approvals
  • Better visibility: work wins don’t languish in the shadows

Many people associate managing up with being submissive or a sycophant, but that is far from the truth. In reality, managing up is a key leadership skill because it not only helps you adapt to different personalities and perspectives, it also helps you develop your influence in the workplace.

Take Learnit’s Influence without Authority workshop to learn the styles, behaviors, and techniques to help you grow your influence and deepen your relationships.

What Managing Up Is Not

Managing up is a practical discipline that lets you turn the manager-employee dynamic into a genuine partnership. When you understand what managing up truly involves and what it isn’t, you can present your achievements with confidence and build trust that propels your career forward.

Here’s what managing up is not:

  • It is not managing your manager’s performance. Your boss already has a boss so focus on influence, not supervision.
  • It is not office karaoke where you sing whatever your leader wants to hear. Authentic disagreement presented with evidence earns respect faster than uncritical harmony.
  • It is not a back channel to bypass the chain of command. Going over a manager’s head erodes trust; partnership beats bypass.
  • It is not a personality makeover project. You cannot rewire a leader’s temperament, but you can adapt how and when you deliver information.
  • It is not flattery in a fancier suit. Compliments without substance feel manipulative; data-backed solutions feel invaluable.

Instead, it’s a two-way alignment process: understand how your manager thinks, communicates, and measures success; then adapt your style, information flow, and problem-solving approach to complement theirs. 

Understanding Your Manager’s World

Managing up starts with a mental shift: step out of your day-to-day tasks and slip into your manager’s shoes. What keeps them awake at 3 a.m.? Which goals determine their bonus, their reputation, even their job security? When you see work through that wider lens, every email, update, and suggestion you send becomes sharper and more relevant.

Decode the scoreboard: Skim company OKRs, all-hands decks, and earnings calls to spot the handful of metrics that decide your boss’s success. Ask, “If you could hit only one goal this quarter, which one matters most?” The answer exposes hidden pressures from above.

Map the ecosystem: List allies who clear paths and skeptics who stall progress. A simple grid of champions, neutrals, detractors helps you tailor proposals and gather support before meetings.

Watch the rhythm: Calendar clues reveal “maker” windows and meeting marathons. If reports hit inboxes Sunday night, deliver your brief early Monday; avoid heavy asks during quarterly-review crunches.

Match the format: Some leaders love bulletproof spreadsheets, others skim dashboards. Mirror their style: headline first, deep-dive appendix optional. Respecting their information diet saves time and builds trust.

Add empathy: Budget cuts, hiring freezes, or board scrutiny rarely surface in team chats. A quick “What’s your biggest concern this month, and how can I help?” signals partnership, not dependence.

Keep a live priority matrix: Color-code urgent fires, strategic bets, and personal hot buttons in a shared doc and review weekly. This simple habit keeps you aligned and two steps ahead, turning you from task-taker into trusted adviser.

Why HR Leaders Should Care About Managing Upwards

When employees master the art of managing up, the benefits ripple through reporting lines, teams, and ultimately the balance sheet. 

For HR leaders, that ripple is a tidal wave of strategic upside: sharper engagement scores, sturdier pipelines, and a culture where feedback flows faster than office gossip. 

Here’s what’s on the line when you champion managing up:

Retention & Engagement: Employees who feel heard and empowered to influence are 3× more likely to stay past the two-year mark. Teaching staff how to manage up at work directly targets that engagement gap.

Leadership Pipeline: The best future managers are those who already excel at managing upwards; the skill converts smoothly to leading downwards. Building it early future-proofs succession planning.

DEI & Psychological Safety: Structured upward feedback loops level the playing field, giving quieter voices and under-represented groups a safer mechanism to surface ideas and inequities.

Org-Wide Efficiency: When information flows in both directions without friction, decision latency drops. Less “managerial telephone,” more real-time clarity.

Employer Brand: A culture that equips employees with tips for managing up signals maturity and modernity, catnip for high-caliber talent.

7 Proven Strategies for Managing Up at Work

Teach these tactics in onboarding, bake them into leadership programs, and watch cross-level friction melt away.

1. Get to know your manager

Every manager has a “user manual,” even if it’s locked in their head. Observe or ask about their preferred cadence (daily stand-up or weekly digest?), decision trigger (data, gut, or stakeholder consensus?), and pet peeves (walk-ins? typo-ridden decks?). 

Once you pinpoint the pattern, mirror it. This tiny act of adaptability is the fastest way to earn credibility, especially with detail-driven leaders who equate alignment with competence.

Learnit offers many empathy workshops that can help you understand different perspectives and interact with compassion.

2. Align On Success Metrics Early

Getting to know your manager also means knowing about their goals, objectives, and priorities. If the answer isn’t clear, don’t hesitate to ask them. 

Before projects leave the runway, confirm answers to two questions:

  • What does success look like for my role?
  • How does that ladder up to my manager’s quarterly OKRs?

When those definitions diverge, fire drills become more frequent. When they dovetail, approvals fly through and workloads feel purposeful. Document the agreement, then socialize it with cross-functional partners so everyone’s compass points north.

3. Communicate Early & Often

Surprises belong at birthday parties, not in status reviews. 

According to Fierce Inc., 86% of employees and executives say poor communication is the main reason projects fail.

A concise Friday email (“Done → Doing → Blocked”) or a living dashboard lets leaders scan their progress on their schedule, saving Mondays for strategy, not status. 

When plans slip (they will), flag issues while there’s still room to manoeuvre. “I’m sliding by two days; here’s the mitigation plan” beats “We missed the launch, sorry!” every time.

Take Learnit’s Supercharge Collaboration with Team Styles workshop to learn how to communicate effectively with people who have different communication styles.

4. Bring Solutions, Not Surprises

Spot a pothole? Arrive with at least two fill-in options, each outlining effort, risk, and ROI. 

Presenting choices reframes you from messenger to problem-solver and makes approvals almost automatic. Managers love selecting boxes more than inventing them. 

Bonus: The exercise hones your strategic thinking faster than any certification course.

5. Master the 1:1 Meeting

Treat each scheduled check-in as a mini board session with a clear agenda. 

Devote fifteen percent of the time to celebrating recent wins, seventy percent to untangling current challenges, and the remaining fifteen percent to your growth ambitions. 

Email the agenda and any links a full day before the meeting so your manager arrives prepped. Close every conversation by confirming who is responsible for each follow-up and when it will be completed. 

Run your one-on-ones this way and they transform from routine calendar slots into focused strategy boosters.

6. Seek & Share Feedback Fearlessly

Invite specific input from your manager (“What is one thing I could streamline this week?”) and respond with a plan, not a defense. 

Offer the same candor upward by pairing observations with data and a suggested next step. When both sides trade clear, timely insights, small course corrections happen in real time and trust compounds quickly. 

Routine feedback becomes a shared accelerator rather than a dreaded performance ritual.

7. Build Long-Term Trust Through Empathy

Managers juggle KPIs you never see: board decks, budget cuts, team morale dips. A quick “Looks like a heavy week, what can I unblock for you?” shows that you get the broader picture. Empathy humanizes hierarchy, opening the door for honest dialogue when stakes spike.

Managing Up Examples HR Leaders Can Share

Here are several scenarios of managing up in the workplace.

Communication Channels That Work

Great communication is less about volume and more about fit. Here are several channels that you and your manager can decide on for sharing updates and communication.

  • Email for decisions. Summaries with a clear ask, one topic per note, and a bold “Needed by” date keep threads tidy.
  • Chat for clarification. Short bursts in Slack or Teams iron out wrinkles before they wrinkle reputations.
  • Video for nuance. Five minutes on camera can spare twenty confusing texts—tone, gestures, and all.
  • Shared docs for living work. Status pages or project dashboards give leaders a window into progress without prowling for updates.

Mirror your manager’s preference. Some love dashboards; others skim bullets. And remember: close every loop. 

Manage Up Across Multiple Generations In The Workforce

A Gen Z analyst texting GIFs to a Baby Boomer VP who favors phone calls? 

Email is the preferred tool for 42% of Gen Z, that's more than double the number who chose apps like Slack or WhatsApp (20%)

Surface preferences: “Do you like quick Slacks or weekly voice check-ins?” Next, trade strengths. Digital natives can offer real-time dashboards; seasoned leaders can share institutional wisdom. This reciprocal mentoring flattens age-based stereotypes.

Communication style also shifts by generation. Younger employees often crave frequent, informal feedback; older managers may expect formal reviews. Meet in the middle: deliver micro-updates in the VP’s preferred format, then schedule deeper reflections on a quarterly basis. Finally, highlight shared values, achievement, fairness, and impact. 

Age fades fast when everyone’s rowing toward the same goal.

How HR Can Build a Culture of Managing Upwards

Managers alone cannot shoulder the responsibility for healthy reporting relationships. HR sets the tone by weaving upward management into policies, learning paths, and day-to-day rituals. Follow this five-step blueprint to make the practice part of your organization’s DNA.

1. Bake it into onboarding 

New hires receive a short session on upward management basics along with a template for their first one-to-one agenda. Encourage them to share a personal working style document with their manager during the first week.

2. Create a skills workshop series

Offer recurring micro-classes on topics such as framing executive updates, running effective one-to-ones, and giving feedback in every direction. Position these as core leadership competencies rather than optional soft skills.

3. Model the behavior at the top

Ask senior leaders to demonstrate upward management publicly. Examples include circulating their own working-style guides and praising staff who surface problems early with solution options. Visible sponsorship reduces the perception that managing upwards is political.

4. Reward and recognize

Update performance reviews to measure how well employees align with their manager’s priorities, communicate progress, and present solutions. Spotlight great examples in town halls and newsletters to reinforce desired behaviors.

5. Provide coaching and resources

Set up confidential coaching hours where employees can rehearse tough conversations or refine status updates. Supply plug-and-play tools such as a Friday progress email template or a living dashboard outline.

Implement these steps quarter by quarter. Start with onboarding tweaks in Q1, launch the workshop series in Q2, drive top-level modeling in Q3, and hard-wire recognition and coaching programs by Q4. With consistent reinforcement, managing up will shift from an individual tactic to a cultural norm.

Common Pitfalls and How to Avoid Them

Even seasoned professionals can stumble when they first encourage managing upwards. Watch for these five traps and keep your culture on track.

Confusing managing up with excessive flattery

Compliments are welcome but they are not a strategy. Encourage employees to ground every upward interaction in data, solutions, or clear asks. Authentic advocacy beats empty praise.

Drowning leaders in noise

Overcommunication is just as risky as radio silence. Establish agreed-upon reporting cadences and preferred channels to ensure updates remain concise and actionable.

Bypassing the chain of command

Surfacing issues is healthy but sidestepping a direct manager erodes trust. Train staff to address concerns with their immediate leader first, and then escalate them together if necessary.

Avoiding honest disagreement

A nodding head culture will not protect the business from blind spots. Teach constructive dissent frameworks such as asking clarifying questions, presenting evidence, and suggesting alternatives.

Trying to change the manager rather than the relationship

Upward management is about adapting styles and expectations, not redesigning your boss’s personality. Focus on shared goals, communication preferences, and mutual accountability.

Address these pitfalls early through coaching clinics and real-world role plays. A candid feedback loop ensures small slips never snowball into cultural drift.

Turn Managing Up into Your Everyday Advantage

Managing up is a practical skill that turns uncertainty into alignment, friction into flow, and effort into visible, career-building results. By decoding your manager’s pressures, choosing the right communication channels, and delivering solutions instead of surprises, you create a partnership that benefits everyone: you, your boss, your team, and the wider organization.

Remember the essentials:

  • Know the score. Pin down the one or two metrics that truly define success for your manager and map your work to them.
  • Communicate with intention. Agree on cadence and medium, keep updates concise, and always close the loop.
  • Lead with empathy. Managers juggle hidden stresses; a well-timed “How can I lighten the load?” builds trust faster than perfect metrics.
  • Model the mindset. Share your own “user manual,” invite upward feedback, and mentor colleagues in the same habits to spread a culture of upward management.

For HR leaders, teaching managing up is a low-cost, high-return investment: engagement climbs, decision latency drops, and your talent pipeline fills with employees who already think and act like leaders. Bake it into onboarding, spotlight role-model behavior at the top, and reward employees who align, communicate, and deliver.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I learn to manage up?

Start with structured learning: books (HBR Guide to Managing Up & Across), reputable articles, or a short online course. Formal development works. Companies that invest in employee training see productivity jump 17% and 59 % of workers say training directly improves their performance. Then practice on the job: observe your manager’s priorities, test small adjustments to your update cadence, and ask for feedback. Finally, build a peer circle or find a mentor who models strong managing-up habits; real-time coaching turns theory into reflex.

What is the concept of managing up?

Managing up means proactively shaping the relationship with someone who has more positional power so you both win. It’s “strategically navigating relationships with those who have more positional power than you. You do this by understanding their goals, adapting your communication style, and delivering solutions instead of extra problems.

How to manage up with a bad boss?

Begin by protecting yourself: document directives, deadlines, and decisions. Toxic leadership is common—56 % of U.S. employees call their boss “mildly or highly toxic,” and 75 % say a bad boss is their biggest daily stressor. Next, reframe interactions:

  • Clarify expectations in writing to reduce last-minute surprises.
  • Set boundaries around workload or off-hours pings; suggest alternatives rather than saying a flat “no.”
  • Feed solutions, not frustrations—bad bosses often react better to concrete options than to problems alone.
  • Build alliances with peers and mentors for perspective and support.
  • Escalate or exit if the behavior violates policy or harms wellbeing; keep a record to support HR action.

Even with a difficult manager, consistent, transparent communication can lower conflict and keep your career on track.

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